I have written several articles on here about the importance of your mindset when you are trying to lose weight. Wrong thinking can undermine your weight-loss efforts, ending up in more disappointment. Most of us have some faulty thoughts, no matter how positive we try to be. Some negative thoughts are disguised as positive language, but if you look deep down, it is not really that positive.
Let’s take a look at some of the faulty mindsets that affect us:
When you feel that you have to take a harmful appetite suppressant to lose weight, you are shifting the responsibility for poor lifestyle habits away from yourself. Another defeatist attitude is accepting that being overweight is in your genes and can’t be changed.
Many people are losing weight by using self-empowering thoughts and good nutrition.
Using words like “ugly”, “fat” and “sloppy” to describe yourself causes you to live by those labels. These labels break down your self-confidence and you then become the label instead of the person you were meant to be.
Changing your lifestyle, eating healthier and exercising require discipline. It is the lack of discipline which has got you to the place where you are at. Trying for a while and failing over and over can easily lead to frustration. This is how you learn to avoid frustration by not trying at all. So the cycle repeats itself over and over again.
Go Big or Don’t Go at All Thinking
When you get on the scale and again you did not lose as much weight as you had hoped, you say to yourself:
“I am working so hard at this, but I am not losing any weight. I am wasting my time.”
This comes with a whole set of negative self-talk. It reactivates unwanted behavior and causes more damage.
There is nothing wrong with still enjoying a small piece of cake, but this mindset leads to binge eating. This is the very thought-process which causes alcoholics and drug addicts to relapse.
Who doesn’t want to look like a celebrity? Well, me. Yes, they are beautiful – on paper. But they spend hours in the gym every day. They follow unrealistic diets and take dangerous prescription drugs. But that’s not even enough. Their photos have to be enhanced to make them look like they do on television and in magazines.
Do you say these things to yourself?
If I don’t lose weight now, I never will.
My husband will leave me if I gain weight.
If I eat that one small piece of chocolate I will gain 20lbs.
It is essential to understand that our everyday circumstances are ordinary and not to exaggerate them. Everyone has small slipups every day, but the key to success is in how we handle it. Using this type of self-talk does more harm than good. Yes, you won’t eat any chocolate or cake or fattening foods, but is it really sustainable? For most of us, no. However, by thinking about a small indulgence (provided you keep it small) realistically and enjoying it as such will stop it from turning into a catastrophy.
Remember, you don’t lose weight because you have super-human self-control. You lose weight by being disciplined despite being a human being who enjoys the sweet things in life. It is about moderation and enjoying your food. You can’t lose weight when you feel deprived as your efforts are blocked by negative and disempowering thoughts.
Make the decision today to change your mindset and change your life.